Episode 143 - Unconditional parenting, part six
By Wes Bertrand
In this episode I cover Chapter Five: Pushed To Succeed in the
book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And
Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
"Pop behaviorism" or operant conditioning implements
punishments and rewards as a way to get people to do things--in
violation of voluntary interaction and property rights
The essence of statism arises from authoritarianism in the
family, denying children's needs for respect and choice (among
other needs, such as emotional and intellectual honesty) and
appealing to extrinsic motivators rather than intrinsic
motivation and reason
A useful resource to learn about the so-called educational
system, among other important things
http://schoolsucksproject.com
George Carlin - "Proud parents" bumper stickers
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cxmE2qMbYRU
John Holt and the world of unschooling, which is respectful of
learners
http://www.holtgws.com/
Being free to make your own choices (instead of capitulating to
others' demands) promotes intrinsic motivation and thus
self-actualization--which will foster a vibrant, prosperous
society
Feel free to contact me for a counseling session
at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com
Open NVC Sessions...
http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13
2011 Porcupine Freedom Festival in Lancaster, NH
http://porcfest.com
bumper music "Ain't Wastin' Time No More" by the Allman
Brothers
http://www.allmanbrothersband.com/
Episode 142 - Human farming and Ask The Anarchist Podcast
By Wes Bertrand
Governments try to prevent individuals from making their own
choices, such as where they travel and what work they
do--branding individuals with passports and visas facilitates
controlling them
Nation-states are human farms, which indoctrinate
their "livestock" in memes of obedience, submissiveness, and
fear of punishment, so that economic parasitism is seen as
necessary and proper
Lack of trust in individuals is a main reason we
have statism, and it's self-perpetuating
In
contrast, parenting that meets the needs of children--for
respect, choice, autonomy, and love--enables a society to
flourish without desires for coercion and punishment, i.e.,
without people trying to control others via
government
A life proper to a human being requires getting
one's need met for justice (among many vital needs)
New podcast by my friend Joey Hill, hosted at
http://cafelibertalia.com
http://asktheanarchist.blogspot.com/
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Ask-the-Anarchist-Podcast/143189079081459
http://www.libertaliafoundation.org/
http://www.hawaii.edu/powerkills/NOTE1.HTM (death
by government)
http://mises.org/etexts/defensemyth.pdf (the
myth of national defense)
http://www.cnvc.org/ (center
for nonviolent communication)
bumper music "Fear Of Domination" by Fear Of
Domination
http://www.fearofdomination.com/
Episode 141 - Unconditional parenting, part five
By Wes Bertrand
In this episode I cover Chapter Four: Punitive Damages in the
book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And
Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
The jail and prison system is a case study in punitive damages,
wreaking havoc on individuals and our culture
Punishment is inimical to individual life and well-being;
though it's used as a costly way to control others and "teach
them a lesson," it can never foster respect and
self-esteem
Government is simply a manifestation of the punishment model
used by parents carried into the public realm; those in
government have no property rights jurisdiction (they are
neither property owners nor voluntarily chosen--i.e.,
hired--agents of property owners)
Punishment by parents directly undermines a loving relationship
with children, sabotaging both trust and respect
bumper music "This Is My House" by trance[]control
http://www.trancecontrol.com/
Direct download:
Episode_141_-_Unconditional_parenting_part_five.mp3
Episode 140 - Unconditional parenting, part four
By Wes Bertrandhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Australia to refund royalty increases under mine tax (whatever that means)
http://www.mineweb.com/mineweb/view/mineweb/en/page72068?oid=123556&sn=Detail
Protectionism and taxation are based on economic fallacies as well as legal and ethical falsehoods
What Has Government Done to Our Money? by Murray N. Rothbard
http://mises.org/money.asp
Many parents act as if children "don't deserve" an equal amount of respect as adults
it's important to distinguish requests from demands...
The Basics of Non Violent Communication 2.5
http://youtu.be/OqEVI07WmzM
ultimately, we can't make anyone do anything; we can only make them wish they had...
The Basics of Non Violent Communication 1.6
http://youtu.be/ppyawhuroDw
Meeting children's need for self-esteem (self-confidence and self-respect) enables parents to lessen their own frustration and get their own needs met
External control and demands and lack of trust don't work, and they are harmful to self-regulation, among other vital needs
Secret of Childhood by Maria Montessori
http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Childhood-Maria-Montessori/dp/0345305833
Open NVC Sessions...
http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13
Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com
bumper music "Another Beat" by trance[]control
http://www.trancecontrol.com/
Direct download: Episode_140_-_Unconditional_parenting_part_four.mp3
Episode 139 - Unconditional parenting, part three
By Wes Bertrand
In this episode I cover Chapter Two: Giving And Withholding
Love in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards
And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Time out from positive reinforcement is a widespread form of
love withdrawal
Making children suffer in order to get different behavior from
them begets more of itself, and it definitely prepares them for
the coercive world of statism
The Condition Of Modern Psychology (explicating many of the
ills of behaviorism and lack of philosophical
understanding)
http://www.logicallearning.net/libconditionofps.html
My Years with Ayn Rand - A powerful myth-shattering memoir
about one of the twentieth century's most controversial
figures
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_25&products_id=29
Rewards are largely ineffective at improving the quality of
people's work and learning, and like punishments, they have
many harmful results
Intrinsic motivation, wanting to do something for its own sake,
is fundamentally different than extrinsic motivation, doing
something in order to get something else (reward) or avoid
something else (punishment); both punishments and rewards are
extrinsic motivators, which in turn sabotage intrinsic
motivation and beget extrinsically motivated people
Helpful and comprehensive psychotherapeutic workbook: The Art
Of Self-Discovery
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=38
Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com
bumper music "Justify My Love" by trance[]control
http://www.trancecontrol.com/
Episode 138 - Unconditional parenting, part two
By Wes BertrandIn this episode I cover Chapter One: Conditional Parenting in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Your vision of human nature is basically reflected in how you view children
The replaying abusive childhood scripts is common in the adult
world--such as government and the memes of statism
Bullying story from New South Wales...
YouTube - Casey Heynes FULL INTERVIEW on ACA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T-5jktFu4iE
VIDEO: Boy body-slams his alleged bully (Bully Interview)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5sTp3Yls-I
The institution of government doesn't meet individual needs for respect and sovereignty
Moralistic thinking (right and wrong) can diminish our chances of getting our needs met from the person being accused and disconnect us from taking responsibility for our emotions
Feel free to contact me for a counseling session
at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com
2011 Liberty Getaway 5-day cruise to Bermuda (registration
deadline has been extended!)
http://www.btwcruises.com/rw/view/475
http://freedomcamp.wikispaces.com/
bumper music "The Journey" by Lagoona
http://www.purevolume.com/andreasviklund
Episode 137 - Unconditional parenting, part one
By Wes Bertrand
In this episode I cover the Introduction in the book
Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
The most extreme example of operant conditioning is the
domination system of government--individuals are told to obey and
are punished if they don't do what they're told
Any political philosophy not based on property rights is bound to
deny individual needs for autonomy, justice, choice, and
respect
The foundation of a free society is to be found in parents who
interact with children in life-enriching ways, who connect with
feelings and meet needs for respect and choice
Teaching kids to attribute the cause of their feelings to things
outside themselves hinders them (and later, as adults) from
taking responsibility for their feelings
http://logicallearning.net/ResponsibilityForFeelings.mp3
(NVC audiobook segment by Marshall Rosenberg)
Please join the revised http://completeliberty.com
Here's an instructive forum thread...
Home> Public Outreach> How do we educate? (an NVC
discussion)
http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/7/page/1
Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com
2011 Liberty Getaway 5-day cruise to Bermuda (registration
deadline has been extended!)
http://www.btwcruises.com/rw/view/475
http://freedomcamp.wikispaces.com/
bumper music "Destination Skyline" by Aura - the source of
trance
http://auratrance.com/
Episode 136 - Nonviolent communication reexamined
By Wes Bertrand
Guest Oliver Heuler from Germany http://heuler.de/ and http://voluntarist.de/ (Google
Chrome browser can translate into English on the fly:)
Re: FDR 1007: A third way http://board.freedomainradio.com/forums/p/14090/119868.aspx
Oliver's handiwork...
Obama will resign as president http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NxjkatKuwRM
http://www.freedomainradio.com/Traffic_Jams/FDR_1836_NVC_Intro.mp3
Nonviolent communication simply means connecting with feelings and needs
Needs for safety, security, and comfort need not come at the expense of needs for justice, autonomy, independence, choice, and respect
Two invaluable parenting books:
Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids: 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict into Cooperation by Sura Hart and Victoria Kindle Hodson
http://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/store/product_info.php?products_id=48
and
Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
No Contest: The Case Against Competition by Alfie Kohn
http://www.alfiekohn.org/books/nc.htm
When Competition Leads To Conflict (audio interview w/ Kohn)
http://www.goodradioshows.org/peaceTalksL49.htm
Spirituality, rationally understood, pertains to a heightened awareness of one's internal and external worlds
Primitive cultures fostered conformity to the tribe - http://www.logicallearning.net/libearlyhumancon.html
Your interpretations and assessments of past experiences tend to be more important than those past experiences themselves
Change your thoughts and change your feelings
http://www.feelinggood.com/
Value judgments can be distinguished from moral judgments, and there's nothing more foundational than connecting the former with feelings and needs
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory
Max-Neef on Human Needs and Human-scale Development - http://www.rainforestinfo.org.au/background/maxneef.htm
transcendence, integration, autonomy, and connection may by our four basic drives
http://porctherapy.com/2011/02/09/porc-therapy-117-nvc-feedback-ii/
http://freekeene.com/2011/02/21/wmur-reports-on-free-keene/
Battleground: Keene
http://www.wmur.com/video/26935273/detail.html
bumper music "Carry You" by VNV Nation
http://www.vnvnation.com/
Direct download: Episode_136_-_Nonviolent_communication_reexamined.mp3
Episode 135 - Cops, statist culture, and nonviolent communication
By Wes Bertrandhttp://c4ss.org/content/2873
State of the Police State: more bad cops than good by Garry Reed
http://www.examiner.com/libertarian-in-dallas/state-of-the-police-state-more-bad-cops-than-good
http://www.examiner.com/libertarian-in-dallas/state-of-the-police-state-continued
No legalized monopoly of coercion in the realm of supposed justice will ever provide justice (coercive monopolies always provide the lowest quality at the highest cost)
The domination memes of our culture do not meet people's need for autonomy
Connecting with people empathetically enables recognition of these truths
Anarchy vs. Barney Fife by Mark R. Crovelli
http://www.lewrockwell.com/crovelli/crovelli50.1.html
Government can be seen as cannibalization of the human race; it's the main institution that eats away at our opportunities on a daily basis as well as our future possibilities in the marketplace
What's So Funny about Put-down Humor and Teasing
http://www.goodradioshows.org/peaceTalksL87.htm
The Basics of Non Violent Communication 1.1 (making natural giving possible)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-129JLTjkQ
some helpful tips for encounters with the cops
http://flexyourrights.org/10_Rules
Home> Public Outreach> How do we educate? (an NVC discussion)
http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/7/page/1
2011 Liberty Getaway 5-day cruise to Bermuda (registration deadline March 1st)
http://www.btwcruises.com/rw/view/475
http://freedomcamp.wikispaces.com/
bumper music "Bad Boys Bad Boys" by Inner Circle
http://www.innercircle-reggae.com/
star wars cops
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4MMAoOPa0Pg
Direct download: Episode_135_-_Cops_statist_culture_and_nonviolent_communication.mp3
Episode 134 - Violence of cops and judges, need for nonviolent communication
By Wes Bertrand
Guests Brett from http://schoolsucksproject.com
and Daniel from http://warisimmoral.com
http://www.cnvc.org/learn-nvc/learn-nonviolent-communication
http://www.wikihow.com/Practice-Nonviolent-Communication
Free Ademo! Free Speech! by Pete Eyre
http://www.copblock.org/1748/freeademo/
http://freekeene.com/2011/01/26/ridley-reports-on-ademos-arrest/
http://freekeene.com/2011/01/25/video-ademo-v-freeman-sentenced-to-60-days-in-jail-for-speaking/
Non Violent Communication - A Roundtable - Wes Bertrand, Brett
Veinotte and Stefan Molyneux discuss Marshall Rosenberg's
theory of nonviolent communication.
http://blip.tv/file/4674030/
cross post on Brett's site
http://www.schoolsucksproject.com/podcasts/80
FDR 1836 Nonviolent Communication – An Introduction by Stefan
Molyneux
http://www.freedomainradio.com/Traffic_Jams/FDR_1836_NVC_Intro.mp3
The Art of Living Consciously by Nathaniel Branden
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=28
In the Line of Duty - Watch: SLC Cop Kills Golf Club Wielder;
Your Take??
http://www.lineofduty.com/the-blotter/110671-watch-slc-cop-kills-golf-club-wielder-your-take
'Cops Kill People Execution Style Judges Cover It Up For Them'
1/24/11 - Freedom Watch News
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M3I4_7AGM2A
http://www.theagitator.com/2011/01/25/me-on-freedomwatch-2/
Don't bring golf club to gun fight
http://forums.officer.com/forums/showthread.php?159212-Don-t-bring-golf-club-to-gun-fight
Shots Fired: Ogden, Utah 05-26-2006
http://www.policemag.com/Channel/Gangs/Articles/Print/Story/2008/08/Ogden-Utah-05-26-2006.aspx
Video Shows Utah Man Being Killed in Drug Raid
http://stopthedrugwar.org/chronicle/2011/jan/19/video_shows_utah_man_being_kille
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kathryn_Johnston_shooting
The Case Of Cory Maye http://www.reason.tv/video/show/403.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cory_Maye
How to fix the police by Kent McManigal
http://www.examiner.com/libertarian-in-albuquerque/how-to-fix-the-police
About that "War on Cops".... by William N. Grigg
http://freedominourtime.blogspot.com/2011/01/about-that-war-on-cops.html
Best of the 2010 Bullrun Rally - Too Hot for TV! by The Smoking
Tire
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=50cJvmtPrRc
2011 Liberty Getaway 5-day cruise to Bermuda (registration
deadline March 1st)
http://www.btwcruises.com/rw/view/475
http://freedomcamp.wikispaces.com/
bumper music "Cops And Criminals" by Pleasure Club
http://www.myspace.com/pleasureclub/music/albums/the-fugitive-kind-8768605
