Episode 153 - Reflections on Libertopia 2011
By Wes Bertrandhttp://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/stolen_concept,_fallacy_of.html
promoting intrinsic motivation: trust children, and they will
learn...
http://summum-bonum.org/
no matter who you vote for, politics (government) always wins
http://www.meetup.com/LeewaySudburySchool/
http://completeliberty.com/viii__objective_law.html
Taking on the California DMV
http://www.youtube.com/hotforliberty#p/u/32/41ZY5LSDEZA
Parenting with Naomi Aldort - S.A.L.V.E. Formula
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFlPe14SuAY
Five Principles of Libertopia
1. All actions should be peaceful and voluntary
2. Honor the self
3. Rule yourself
4. Live and let live
5. Community of Spontaneous Order
by Larry Ludlow...
http://www.freedomsphoenix.com/Magazine/098621-2011-10-29-libertopia-2011-four-days-in-the-freest-place-on-earth.htm
bumper music "California" by Semisonic
http://www.semisonic.com/
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Episode 152 - Unconditional parenting, part fourteen
By Wes Bertrand
In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Ten:
The Child's Perspective in the book Unconditional Parenting:
Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie
Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/empathy
An assortment of helpful nonviolent communication
resources I've compiled (2MB download of PDFs)
http://dl.dropbox.com/u/7585370/NVCcompilation.zip
Our culture has a tough time with the idea of
self-centeredness, similar to the notion of selfishness; Ayn
Rand helped clarify:
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/selfishness.html
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/contradictions.html
You are your highest value, first and foremost, which
enables you to see others as their own highest value--thus,
neither sacrificing oneself to others, nor others to
oneself
A world of selfless people is not one in which people are
getting their needs met
A profound way to explore your inner-self, especially
your child-self--The Art Of Self-Discovery
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=38
bumper music "A New World" by Antinomie
couldn't find link; closest site - http://www.myspace.com/nemystic
to comment, please go to http://completeliberty.com/magazine/category/91697
Episode 151 - Unconditional parenting, part thirteen
By Wes Bertrand
Agora I/O - the online liberty unconference...
http://agora.io/laozi/schedule/
http://agora.io/laozi/archives/
Libertopia - an annual festival of peace, freedom, music,
community and ideas that will change the World...a 3-day
celebration of our individuality and diversity in sunny San
Diego...
http://libertopia.org/
In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Ten: The
Child's Perspective in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving
From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie
Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Happiness is our highest moral purpose, so it's vital to know
what it objectively requires
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/happiness.html
Out-of-context happiness (e.g., ignoring the ills of statism)
is just as disconnected from one's true self as the unhappiest
depression
Punitive parenting and punitive governmental actions tragically
go hand in hand
The commonly misunderstood ethical terms...
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/self-interest.html
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/altruism.html
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/trader_principle.html
At a bare minimum, parents need to convey to their kids the
extreme importance and sanctity of their persons and property,
i.e., the nature of respecting individual rights in
society
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/individual_rights.html
In a free society, everyone can be productive; "competition" is
merely people bringing various values to the marketplace
bumper music "Let There Be Light" by Astral Projection
http://www.myspace.com/astralprojectionavilior
Episode 150 - Unconditional parenting, part twelve
By Wes Bertrand
In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Nine:
Choices For Children in the book Unconditional Parenting:
Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie
Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Taking responsibility is greatly diminished in those who
administer punishments, since they commonly blame the
disobedient person who's being punished as "bringing it on
themselves" or "choosing" to be punished
Whenever what we want comes across as a demand (rather than a
request), we tend to pay a price psychologically and socially
in terms of getting our needs met
As humans, we all have the same needs:
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory
And feelings are universal as well:
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory
The all-too-commom process of parents telling children what to
do and when to do it, such as eating and sleeping, greatly
hinders the process of children learning to take responsibility
for their own basic functions as growing human beings; and, it
doesn't meet their needs for respect and autonomy (among other
needs)
Check out the facets of whole-life unschooling...
http://www.unschooling.info/
; http://www.unschooling.org/ ;
http://www.holtgws.com/whatisunschoolin.html
Dayna Martin: What is Radical Unschooling?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kiHyzS26N0Y
Ian Freeman's thorough overview of the NH CD liberty
activism
http://freekeene.com/2011/09/03/ians-blog-from-jail-3/
bumper music "Sunrise" by trance[]control
http://www.trancecontrol.com/
Episode 149 - Unconditional parenting, part eleven
By Wes Bertrand
In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Nine:
Choices For Children in the book Unconditional Parenting:
Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie
Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Even if you're not a parent who is frustrated about how to deal with kids so that your own needs are met, it's key to get in touch with your child-self, so that you can focus on life-enriching, respectful interactions that are essentially win/win with children
Using operant and classical conditioning on children (and adults) basically prevents them from becoming mature human beings, beings that are self-actualized, self-confident, self-respecting, independent and happy; "pop behaviorism" disconnects us from our feelings and needs, treating us as nonconceptual creatures to be punished or bribed instead of reasoned with
Children are volitional, conceptual beings, in contrast
to other primates (and all other organisms)
Homo Sapiens: The Rational Animal
http://www.logicallearning.net/libhomosapiens.html
The Crucial Faculty Of Choice
http://www.logicallearning.net/libfreewill.html
Statism is a recapitulation of the coercive family environment, in which kids' need for respect isn't met (among many other needs)
Domination language and domination structures thwart our need for autonomy and foster widespread coercion and hypocrisy
As humans, we all have the same needs:
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory
The Secret Of Childhood by Maria Montessori
http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Childhood-Maria-Montessori/dp/0345305833
http://www.questia.com/PM.qst?a=o&d=8977399
http://www.ryanfarish.com/
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Episode 148 - Unconditional parenting, part ten
By Wes Bertrand
In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Eight: Love
Without Strings Attached in the book Unconditional Parenting:
Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie
Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
The process of administering rewards and punishments doesn't
treat individuals as equals; authoritarian power imbalances are
inherent
Sound property rights enable jurisdiction, whereas "public
property" enables constant injustices by the coercive (and
communistic) monopoly of statist police and courts
About Ian Freeman's unjust incarceration and the nature of the
system of injustice...
http://freekeene.com/2011/08/11/what-can-you-do-when-you-dont-approve-of-police-actions/
The practice of self-acceptance is a key component of
self-esteem, of embracing one's fundamental worthiness, being
fit to exist
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?products_id=35
Unschooling: What is Deschooling?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9meP3a64MzY
"Authority," given its unreasonable nature, will never respect
reason and choice in individuals
Info about unschooling and John Holt's books...
http://www.holtgws.com/
bumper music "Nothing Left To Give" by Sarah McLachlan
http://www.sarahmclachlan.com/
Episode 147 - Unconditional parenting, part nine
By Wes Bertrand
In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Eight: Love
Without Strings Attached in the book Unconditional Parenting:
Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie
Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Some of Ayn Rand's views on love...
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/love.html
Life is what you make of it; your sense of life essentially colors your experiences yet doesn't alter objective reality; no one's needs ought to be sacrificed in the process of living happily
Nonviolent communication is truly a language of life, essential
for adults and children--for families
http://cnvc.org
http://nvcworld.com
Instead of offer criticism, strive to complain
effectively...
http://healthymindfitbody.com/2011/06/12/73-complaining-effectively-with-psychologist-guy-winch-part-1/
http://healthymindfitbody.com/2011/06/20/74-complaining-effectively-with-psychologist-guy-winch-part-2/
Helpful and comprehensive psychotherapeutic workbook to
compassionately connect you with your own child-self, among
other subconscious facets: The Art Of Self-Discovery
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=38
Peace Talks Radio interview with Jorge Rubio, an NVC trainer
(40mins)
http://www.goodradioshows.org/peaceTalksL05.htm
You're welcome to join the Complete Liberty fb fan page:
http://facebook.com/completeliberty/
Nonviolent communication thread...
Open NVC Sessions...
http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13
bumper music "Do you do you love me" by Nina
http://www.ninagoddess.com/
Episode 146 - Unconditional parenting, part eight
By Wes Bertrand
In this episode I cover Chapter Seven: Principles Of
Unconditional Parenting in the book Unconditional Parenting:
Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie
Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
bringing parents and children together...
http://takingchildrenseriously.com
Parental rationalizations for coercing children are quite
similar to governmental rationalizations for coercing
"citizens"
we are fallible beings, so making mistakes is a natural part of
life
http://www.logicallearning.net/libertyourownima.html
"Children construct a theory about their own motives based in
part on our assumptions about their motives, and then they act
accordingly: 'You think I'm just plain bad and need to be
controlled all the time? Fine. Watch me act as though you're
right.'" Kohn p.211
"We can help kids to develop good values by treating them as
though they were already motivated by those values. They
thereby come to believe what's best about themselves and live
up to our trust in them." Kohn p.213
It's clear that parents need to learn the process of nonviolent
communication, so they can foster win/win, life-enriching
interactions with children, in which no one's needs are
sacrificed
http://nvcworld.com
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_parenting
some post-porcfest 2011 details...
NSP - Jul 2, 2011 - Co-host: JT & Guests: Sovereign Curtis
and Calvin
http://www.marcstevens.net/nsp-commercial-free/474-nsp20110702.html
bumper music "Voyager" by Antinomie (couldn't find link)
Episode 145 - Steve Jobs, Apple, producers vs governments
By Wes Bertrand
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apple_Inc.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steve_Jobs
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steve_Wozniak
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pirates_of_Silicon_Valley
Secrets From Apple's Genius Bar: Full Loyalty, No
Negativity
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702304563104576364071955678908.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apple_Store
http://blogs.computerworld.com/18157/samsung_blatantly_copies_iphone_ipad_apple_sues?ua
Video: Jobs Pitches New ‘Mothership’ to Approving Cupertino
City Council | Epicenter | Wired.com
http://www.wired.com/epicenter/2011/06/cupertino-jobs-ufo-building/
http://dvice.com/archives/2011/06/a-first-look-at.php
The question that must be asked of those in "city governments"
(or in any "government") is: what would you do in a free
market, in the absence of your coercive organization?
And how can liberty activists help them answer that important
question?
The pervasive distrust in humans to make beneficial and helpful
choices for themselves and others is directly reflected in
conditional parenting tactics and the various rewards and
punishments of operant conditioning in families, in schools,
and in all governmental systems
Take Action! - Fight Aging!
http://www.fightaging.org/take-action/
https://www.opencures.org/
For The New Intellectual by Ayn Rand
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/For_the_New_Intellectual
http://tfasinternational.org/ila/AynRand-ForTheNewIntellectual.pdf
bumper music "Revolution" by The Beatles
http://www.beatles.com/
http://www.myspace.com/thebeatles
Episode 144 - Unconditional parenting, part seven
By Wes Bertrand
In this episode I cover Chapter Six: What Holds Us Back in the
book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments
To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
We learn various costly ways of conditional and controlling parenting via:
-What we see and hear, especially from our family and friends and advice from media figures and doctors
-What we believe, especially societal views of children in terms of their perceived lack of capabilities and the widespread acceptance of control through competition, conformity, punishment, religion, and notions of parenting permissiveness, authoritativeness, and authoritarianism
-What we feel, in terms of projecting our own emotions and behaviors on kids stemming from our own unmet needs from childhood and the myriad psychological defenses arising from them
-What we fear, such as inadequacy, incompetence, powerlessness, being judged by others, our children's safety, and fears of babying and permissiveness, all of which can foster parental behavior that doesn't meet kids' vital needs
Being dissociated from and disowning of one's own child-self is central to not meeting the needs of children and not having authentic and joyful interactions with them
Patience and empathy foster win/win, life-enriching relationships with children
Punishment for violating governmental "laws" is a near perfect reflection of the punishment model of parenting
Mind sacrifice entails the surrender of one's own reasoning
ability to allegedly higher authorities
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/mystics_of_spirit_and_muscle.html
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/religion.html
Parenting with carrot-and-stick manipulation, either on one end or the other--or the so-called "just right" approach--disconnects both parents and kids from what's alive in them, their true reasoning selves, and their feeling and needs
Adults' unmet needs from childhood, if not examined, understood,
and dealt with, can lead to many costly strategies to get them
met, particularly as parents
11 Situations in Which it Is Not Appropriate for You to Have
Children by Daniel Mackler
http://www.iraresoul.com/nokids.html
Placing "limits" on kids often means not letting them develop the essential skill of determining their own limits--so that they can be responsible and self-governing
Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com
Open NVC Sessions...
http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13
bumper music "Set Theory" by Divider (unable to find link)
Direct download: Episode_144_-_Unconditional_parenting_part_seven.mp3